Friday, September 5, 2008

Please don't make me 'parent'

Let the real parenting begin. Up until now it's been just a fun ride. Watching Malaia develop. Being excited that she said her first words, took her first steps. Danced her first dance. It's all been fun until now.
I decided that she really needs to learn the word no, and what it means. So far her understanding is that it means giggle and carry on wreaking havoc. And for the most part it ends up in a laugh for everyone. But we have floor standing speakers that go with our home theater system. They are about 3 1/2 feet tall, really thin and although they have wide bases they are not very stable. The speakers are placed all around our living room, and although we've done our best to conceal the wires. Malaia continuously tries to pull the wires out of the back of the speakers. Not only are the wires dangerous for her, but I'm afraid of one the speakers actually falling on her.
Now I have a voice, that when needed can be low, deep and as loud as necessary. This voice rarely gets used. I knew however, that it was getting close to when I was going to have to stop Malaia from doing something and the only way to make her understand would be to puts some umph into it.
After about the 300th time of me saying " Malaia, NO" she turned her back on me and grabbed a hold of the wires one more time. Well mister loud voice paid his first visit to Malaia. I simply said "HEY". She jumped about 4 inches off of the ground turned around, looked right at me, and started crying. I honestly have never felt so bad. I just wanted to pick her up and give her a hug.
Ang was standing beside me when I did it. I apologized. Said I was hoping not to use that voice, but felt it was time. She said don't apologize she needs to learn. And look she's not grabbing the wires anymore. And then she picked her up and gave her a hug.
Whether or not this was the right way to go about doing things. It worked. And if I even change the tone in my voice now. Malaia simply walks away from whatever it is that's she's doing. Lesson learned! At least until next time..